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Friday, October 7, 2011

Perception is Not Necessarily Reality

Working with many children, but especially teenagers who feel everyone is staring at them and judging them for every little thing is only in your mind: Ache on the face, their clothes; for beginner blind students, it is carrying a cane, or reading braille in front of their peers.

As adults, we judge ourselves from everything from what we wear, the job we have or the house we live in; to waking up at night thinking, we may have said something to hurt someone's feelings (OK, that last one might just be more of a woman thing).

Here is what we must realize.
Our children who are self-conscious about what is growing on their face, well everyone else has something there too.
Our children who "don't want to be different" by reading braille or carrying a cane, sighted kids think it is cool and you fight something that everyone else is REALLY impressed by seeing, but even after the initial seeing of it, it is out of their minds.

People in general who are beating themselves up about every little detail because they THINK someone perceives them in a certain way, is not necessarily reality.

In general, everyone is so involved with their own lives that after the 3 initial seconds of talking with you or seeing you, you are pretty much out of their mind.
In general, your perception of yourself is not reality for the way others are thinking about you. Everyone is too caught up in his or her own lives.

Even if you trip and fall (OK, the exception is a President, where the media decides to play the same video over and over for the world) so even if you trip and fall and we all do it, after 3 seconds, you are pretty much out of everyone's mind.

We need to get over ourselves, so we can go on uninhibited and do greater things. As long as you are self-absorbed, you cannot see the bigger picture of what can be accomplished. You are wrapped up in the fears in your world that are not true reality and then you cannot improve yourself, because all you see are your faults. Figure out your faults and correct them.

You will make your fears and faults your REALITY if you don't change.

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